I really wish

that people would stop getting mad at me for wanting to do things the right way, the fair way, even if it's someone who doesn't deserve for me to do things the right way. I'm sorry that I'm not a cut throat person, underhanded, or inconsiderate. I just feel ESPECIALLY in this horrible situation with Neoma and custody that I should do my best to find an address to inform Scott no matter how I feel about him or this situation,that I am petitioning for a change in custody because of his lack of consideration or thoughtlessness toward how I might feel about him thinking he can do what ever he wants with OUR daughter. I do think it's right for me to find somewhere to send him a subpoena to the hearing because I do owe it to Neoma to be able to find a happy peaceful solution to this situation. The purpose of this hearing is for a judge to decide who she should live with not Scott's mom. It's to make sure that there is court ordered visitation with either parent, so that no one can just disappear with Neoma and not consider the feelings of the other parent. Which is exactly what Scott is trying to do but isn't going to succeed in doing. It's so he CANT just take her to North Carolina and disappear and I don't see my girl again. It's so that even if a judge thinks Neoma should be with Scott, he HAS to make sure to get her to me for our regular visits and CANT just decide that he is going to punish me or her by withholding visits. Am I a nervous wreck about this? Sure I am. Am I worried that all of this is coming at the worst time possible with my not doing so hot and my doctor telling me to avoid stress? You bet. Am I incredibly concerned that I wont be permitted to make these trips because of my current health? Sure. Am I going to pretend to be someone I'm not and go after Scott in an unfair way by not informing him of my petition to the court like he neglected to inform me that he moved to NC and left our daughter in the care of his aunt and mother? No I'm upset but I dont think I should compromise who I am and how I feel so that other people think I'm doing this the best way I should. That's not how things work with me and I wouldn't feel good going about them that way at all. I am not the best person in the world but I try to be a good person. Ya know?

Ima gonna blow my flippin lid

So Scott, Neoma's dad, has moved to North Carolina, left her with her grandma and her great aunt, thinks that he can just move and not consult me, not tell me that he's planning on moving her there or that those people seem to just want to go along with whatever he wants, the guy can't take care of himself. So why the hell would they think that he could take care of Neoma too?

Love

ain't it grand?




yep yep yep yep.

Things I think are funny

Funny in a weird kind of way. for one, a friend who lives 10 minutes away from me who says when we move she'll come visit. Why not come see us now. Rather than waiting for it to be an hour drive? Apparently I'm not that cool unless there's a road trip involved. Kinda funny don't you think?
People who live somewhere it snows EVERY winter. Whether it be a lot or a little. These same people, well a lot of them, complain A LOT about how much the snow sucks. Well then move. It's that simple,especially the single ones. The ones who have only lived here for 3 years are especially funny. I've lived in Columbus Ohio for 15 years and have seen all sorts of winters, dry , snowy , rainy, frozen, icy. You name it, I've seen it. Don't bitch about it, you moved here.
those are two for today. I'll have more this week I'm sure.

I wish people would give me more credit than they do

I'm not stupid. I'm not a rocket scientist by any means but I'm not stupid. Some how Neoma's dad seems to think that he can just up and move to NC and I won't find out why or who he's moving there for and that he's what? going to magically just come get Neoma and move her there without my consent? That he can just take her where ever he wants? Without consulting me or the family courts for that matter? Oh he has another thing coming, according to multiple websites and wv family law, he has to inform the court if he moves. Since he has failed to do so and just left Neoma in the care of her great aunt and grandmother this is going to look bad to the courts, the fact that he's neglected to tell me or for that matter to let me know that he has plans to move her there is not going to look good on him either.
Next month I will be filing a motion to change or modify the current custody order, which might I add was crap to begin with. I am going to at the least, this is the least get an established visitation order in place to protect myself from him thinking he can just take her and fall off the face of the earth or keep her from her usual visits. Of course this could fall even further in my favor as he isn't employed or have a home of his own there and the courts, if he shows up at all, will rule for her to live with me instead and he would have established visitation.
Neoma informed me yesterday that "mawmaw" has already told scott that if he does not find a job and a home of his own that she will send Neoma to live with me. I don't know if she realizes that Neoma living with me would definitely benefit her far more than letting him run willy nilly with Neoma. I have a stable home, I am focused on keeping their grades good, I am a dedicated parent who rarely goes out or even has company for that matter. I also live closer than NC and I'm not going to keep "mawmaw" from visiting her. I am not going to keep her from visiting, that's not who I am. So hopefully they will weigh all this stuff out and just send her to live with me where she's going to have the kind of home she needs to be in. I'm going to have to do a lot of praying that this works in my favor mostly for Neoma's sake. She really needs this.